Every once in a while, I write a facebook post & it gets a little bit big & goes in some cool directions. That happened a few days ago. In the midst of storms, fires, and systematized legislative racism stacked on top of all the other bullshit our communities deal with regularly, hope was hard … Continue reading 2030
On Lack of Accountability in Lefty & Queer Communities
Something I always want to talk about publicly but try to rein in (& you all know how bad I am at reining it in) is how we (in the communities I most strongly identify with) just still haven't figured out how to hold our loved ones and ourselves accountable and really do deep transformative … Continue reading On Lack of Accountability in Lefty & Queer Communities
Questions to Ask a B on a First Date
AKA I'mma Be a Single Harpy Forever After being Surprise Dumped rather unceremoniously earlier this year by a person who had until that point pursued me hard & proffered, unsolicited, dreams upon dreams of our future together, I felt, well, pretty much like a greasy fast food bag, with a half-eaten chicken sandwich inside that … Continue reading Questions to Ask a B on a First Date
Drink Warm Lemon Water Every Morning & Watch as These 20 Things Happen
You might be wondering, “Is a breakfast of warm lemon water right for me? Can I at least have a small apple or something with a little fiber in it? Dang.” Warm Lemon Water TM is definitely the breakfast for you. I promise. If you don’t believe me, believe this list of 20 things that … Continue reading Drink Warm Lemon Water Every Morning & Watch as These 20 Things Happen
How Not To Be A Street Harasser
This post is meant to be an (incomplete, imperfect, yet appreciated) resource on the topic of street harassment and how to avoid it, written for cisgender, heterosexual men, by a cisgender, heterosexual man acquaintance of mine. This does not mean this same advice is totally useless to trans* folks, gender non-conforming folks, or queer/other-wise non-binary … Continue reading How Not To Be A Street Harasser
Why I’ll Never Be A Journalist
Trigger Warnings: violence, death, sexual assault/harassment Because it took me three days of reading headlines about Elliot Rodger before I could click on a single link. Because I only had an inkling of what it might open up inside of me, but the inkling was enough to know to wait. Because when I finally read … Continue reading Why I’ll Never Be A Journalist
Real Malek Communications
This is really my family, y'all. For real, though. I don't know what else to do, but this.
On Parenting. Sort of.
I’m very . . . parental. Apparently. I’ve started to realize that as I’ve grown more into the version of myself that feels like the true adult me, I’ve developed dynamics of varying intensity in different types of relationships that put me in some kind of parent role. I Mommy people in ways that I … Continue reading On Parenting. Sort of.
Sometimes I Dance Out My Feelings
[From my first solo show in about five million years, Nov. 15, 2013 at Culture Fuck in Oakland, CA, at Show & Tell Concept Shop, curated by Jezebel Delilah X & Annah Anti-Palindrome (genius babes)] Video by my lovely & talented friend, Rubin Rodriguez.
Commitmentphilia
When I began to write this, almost two months ago, I started it by typing: "It's been two years since The Best Thing Ever, disguised as The Worst Thing Ever, happened." I then rambled for a bit about my pride in learning, during those two years, so many important skills, such as cultivating healthier relationships … Continue reading Commitmentphilia
